Text-messaging. Facebook. Twitter. Friends or foes?
I’m starting to think the answer is “foe.” My friend (a legitimate, face-to-face friend) and I were talking the other day about how the personal approach to communication seems to be creeping ever so closely to extinction. I don’t know if it’s laziness or if it’s just a change in our culture but I’m not quite ready to deal with it.
I have a few friends that I consider to be in my inner circle. Actually, I call this group of friends “the loop.” As in, they are in the loop and they usually know what big stuff is going on with me. Then there are my other friends that exist on the outskirts of the loop with various levels of access to my life and me to theirs. With friends outside the loop, I don’t feel bad or shunned that I am not in the first level of their circle of communication. It’s OK with me that I don’t learn things about them via a personal phone call or even an email. It’s just the way it is. But when it comes to the loop, I expect to be in it. And I am offended when I’m not. It upsets me when I hear about a big event in their life via Facebook. It just seems so impersonal, as though I’m not worth that little bit of extra effort. Maybe it’s just a blow to my ego, thinking that I mean more to someone than I actually do.
So what’s the hierarchy of communication these days? I won’t even put a letter at the top of the list. Those just don’t happen anymore. Could it be phone call, email, text message, blog, Facebook, and then Twitter? In my mind, the less you can broadcast to, the higher on the list…. Sigh. Share your two cents with me. What do you think of all of this stuff? And, please, feel free to write more than 140 characters. This isn’t Twitter.